Reasonings

This is really, really tricky for Raiyan to say the least. His progress in this past year had us appreciate any answer he would give us, regardless if it is correct or not, because this means that he can actually respond back to us and this could hopefully be the early seeds of conversation for him to have with others.

But along the way, just getting answers from him has made him just be comfortable to give us that. NOW, we are trying to reason with him as to WHY he is giving the answer … and it has been short of a nightmare trying to get this out of him!

I really do feel for Raiyan though. There must be so many things going on his head, especially after all he has computed this past year and I am sure he thinks that the fact that he’s answering the question right is good enough already so why do we have to insist he explain why he came up with the answer? Well this is important for social situations when he has to understand what’s going on around him purely from just looking and observing and then it will be help him when he has to explain and describe the situation he’s observed.

To illustrate, we would show a picture of a girl washing the dishes and we would ask him “what is she doing”. Of course Raiyan can easily answer “she washing the dishes.” The toughie is when we go on and ask him “how can you tell that she’s washing the dishes?” See, I KNOW he KNOWS that she’s washing the dishes but I just want him to tell us HOW he knows by describing the fact that she’s at a sink, and there are soap and water and she’s scrubbing the dishes.

But what Raiyan comes up with instead:

“She washing dishes because they dirty”
“She tired from washing dishes”
“when you finish eating the dishes are dirty”

This is clearly a case where he sees the forest and not the tree because even though all of the things he is saying is true and sort of relates to what I am asking, but simply put, it is NOT directly giving me the simple answer that I am looking for.

As well this morning, I tried to do this exercise with him just through talking (no pictures) and I was telling him how baby Addin wee-wee on the bed last night. He adorably said “Uh-Oh!” (which shows that he understands it’s a “whoopsie” situation so the fact that he recognizes the context of the situation is very good!).

And then I asked him “HOW can we tell if Addin wee-wee in the bed?” Simple answer would be” Because the bed and Addin’s pants were wet” right?

But this is Raiyan:
“When Addin wee-wee, auntie nor take him out of bed and change his pants”

What do I do?!! Uwaaaaa… It’s so hard for me too because of course I appreciate the answer he is still giving… but sigh….. I guess this is something we really need to work on…

I briefly whined to Jo who quickly brushed it off and said to not worry about it and that he WILL get there. And then I remember all of the times before when I would really worry about something Raiyan can’t do and Alhamdulillah, sooner or later he DOES get it! Here’s hoping he can start reasoning sooner rather than later!